ALZHEIMER'S: WELCOME TO THE CLUB

A day at the Museum with our daughter February 2016

It’s early March, not at all what I would call spring but here in Arizona the warm clear days have convinced everything to sprout.  I’ve just finished planting petunias in our garden pots. Looking up, I notice the orange tree is starting to bud.  My hands are black from the potting mix so I wash them with water from the hose and wave to the gardener as he rushes by on his riding mower. The smell of freshly cut grass floats in the breeze behind him.  Ahh.  It’s as though Mother Nature is telling everything to wake up and renew.

I’m feeling hopeful and optimistic, partly because of impending spring but also because our daughter Natalie just spent a week with us.

She didn’t bring a potion with her that had some supernatural effect (besides, the airline wouldn’t have allowed it on the plane anyway), but she provided a special infusion of optimism, just what we needed.

Like most mother-daughter relationships we’ve smoothed off the rough edges that accumulated during the early years of mothering, childhood, and adolescence, and have gotten to a place where we enjoy each other as equals; two adults with a strong love and respect for each other, and many shared goals and objectives.  It’s a good, strong, defensible place to be when Al decides to join your family. 

At one point, as we talked about what lay ahead for us, Natalie said very matter-of-factly, “Mom, you just need to know that I’m on your team.  I understand how hard this is and I want to help”.

How lucky I am.

While she was here, we took the opportunity to refine our care plan and met with a Memory Care Navigator from Sun Health Foundation. Marty, a very personable advisor--and a sort of coach—helped us understand and connect with available support resources, spending an afternoon with us mapping out a “plan of attack”, one that helped provide the push I needed to seek support.  So, last week, Natalie stayed with Joe while I attended my first group support meeting.

It was a gathering of about seventeen people, all of whom are caregivers for spouses or other family members in various stages of the disease; a few more women than men but fairly representative of the community.  I mostly listened, feeling too new to the group to interject my own thoughts. 

  

I was particularly struck by one woman.  The topic was managing the isolation that can come with Al.  I believe she was providing care for her mother (but that isn’t central to my point).  She said she tries to find time to do kindnesses for other people (not just her mother) and that by doing so she derived more happiness for herself. 

I think I know what she was saying.  It was like baking Christmas cookies for the neighborhood last year.  It felt good to do something for someone not involved or focused on our own woes. 

Awhile back Joe and I were shopping at a local craft store when an elderly lady in an electric cart drove into a display case sending its contents rolling down the aisle.  I stopped and helped pick things up for her and stayed while she struggled to compose herself.  I remember feeling good as Joe and I left the store.  Could it be that doing a kindness for others (not just for the loved one you routinely care for) helps you stay balanced overall?  Maybe it’s like pouring a fuel additive into your gas tank, it keeps your engine running better, especially if you’re a high mileage engine, like me.

At any rate, I plan to keep going to the support group meetings and will just see how things develop.  It was a good start.

Having Natalie here also got Joe and I out of the house and doing things we might not have tackled without help, like going to the Phoenix Art Museum, which Joe very much enjoyed.   (We almost had to pry him away from the Michelangelo exhibit.)  Having a wheel chair has made a big difference and greatly expands our range, so to speak.  Now when Joe’s unable to walk we can still keep going.

I know there will always be stress in caring for someone who isn’t as psychologically present as they once were and there will be many times that Al will try to tackle us, knock us down and take our lunch money.  But we’ll just get back up, dust off, and be on our way trying our best to have “joy along the journey”. One thing I know for sure, life is better spent with laughter than tears.

“Hi, and welcome to Alzheimer’s Club.  The first rule of Alzheimer’s club is…….Oh Hi. Welcome to Alzheimer’s Club….”

ALZHEIMER'S: WHERE YOU ONCE WERE

Joe and I Valentines Day 2016

I’ve always enjoyed interacting with young children.  There’s something fascinating about the freshness of their little minds, uncluttered by conventions and bias.  I love their wide-eyed wonderment and innocence. A kind of purity of thought, unfiltered and unobstructed, and free from the experiences that will later shape the lens through which they view the world.  Their preciously short childhoods are the beginning of a long walk through life, and so there’s good reason for us to say, “Enjoy them while they’re little”.

Human development is defined as “the biological, psychological and emotional changes that occur between birth and the end of adolescence; it’s the transition from dependency to increased autonomy, a continuous process with a predictable yet unique course for every human”.

As I read this rather clinical definition of human development, I was struck by how similar it was to a definition of dementia.   In fact, if I change just a few words I would have that definition.

“Dementia is defined as the biological, psychological, and emotional changes that occur between the onset of the disease and the end of the disease process; it’s the transition from autonomy to increased dependency, a continuous process with a predictable end, yet a unique course for every person”.

Okay, before you stop reading this and fear you’ve just stumbled into a Psych 101 class, let me tell you why I would choose to write about this.

Every so often I find some truth about life that seems totally ironic to me.  This is one of those truths…that the development path of the human brain is very similar to the path of its destruction through Alzheimer’s disease, experienced in reverse.

Several years back a short story written by F. Scott Fitzgerald was turned into the film, The Curious Case of Benjamin Button, starring Brad Pitt and Cate Blanchett.  It was a romantic fantasy centered around a character (Benjamin) aging in reverse.  By the end of the story he is chronologically 84 years of age, but has become physically a child.  There’s a scene toward the end of the film where a bewildered social worker stands over his crib and tells his love interest (Daisy) that he’s displaying signs of dementia.

It’s hard to wrap your mind around such a fantastic tale, but there are elements of the story that sound a bit like Al should be showing up in the credits; the erasing of abilities that Al does is like rewinding parts of your life back to where you’ve already been, before you could do what you later did.

In the brief moments when I can set aside my emotions about what Al is doing to Joe, I can look at the disease process with some amount of fascination and marvel.  It truly is incredible to consider that if stored on paper the computed memories in the brain might literally fill a warehouse (well, mine might only fill a U-Haul).  But if that’s the case, how could what has taken a lifetime to accumulate be so easily disrupted, damaged and destroyed?  How can Al be so efficient at bringing a person back to their beginning?

It’s a question I’m sure is perplexing for anyone dealing with Al and unfortunately, there’s still much to be done before there’s an answer.

Today was “doctor time”, a trip for Joe and Al to see the Neurologist.  Joe’s doctor is a personable sort of fellow from Minnesota, with a strong hand shake and friendly smile, the kind of guy you’d want as a brother-in-law.  But he has a very small bag of tricks to deal with Al and he’s almost apologetic about it.  He knows there isn’t anything he can offer us that will change what’s happening.  Maybe he can help slow the effects of the disease for a while, but as he tells us that’s about all we can expect.  The rest is up to us, well, really up to me.

My role is to keep Joe as physically healthy as I can while providing a safe and stimulating environment for him…. not an easy task.

I need to get Joe out of his chair and keep him awake during the day, which will allow him to sleep at night and keep him from wandering around the house.  I may have to set off the smoke detector for this one.

I can always blend spinach into a breakfast smoothie to get him to eat vegetables or add blueberries to his cereal.  I might be able to convince him that there is some nationwide ice cream shortage as an excuse for not buying any.  But keeping Joe’s mind stimulated requires cunning and something other than endless hours of watching television. Maybe strip Scrabble could be the solution.  Today it was miniature golf without keeping score….whatever it takes.

ALZHEIMER'S: Better Homes & Guardians

Joe at 65 before Al showed up

I used to be an adventurous cook, before Al showed up with his bland palate and convinced Joe to dislike almost everything.  I’m not saying I was ‘Wolfgang Puck’ or ‘Julia Child’ adventurous, but I enjoyed experimenting with new recipes and trying different cooking techniques.

Occasionally, I’d get in over my head with something that was beyond my culinary experience.  I’d see a recipe in Bon Appetit that looked pretty straightforward only to find myself midway into the process discovering it was not, in fact, straightforward at all; there’d be some exotic ingredient I’d never heard of (and had no idea where to buy), or some required kitchen gadget I’d never even seen before. 

Well, that’s a bit like where I am now, trying to provide for the needs of a spouse struggling with Alzheimer’s, with no straightforward recipe that if I just follow, can make things turn out right.

Two years ago, when we first got the diagnosis and Joe was in the early stage of the disease, I remember naïvely saying something about my ability to handle anything.  I had experience. I knew how to plan, execute and control things.  Right?

Wrong!

I’m not sure anything could have prepared me for the complex and frustrating world of an Alzheimer’s caregiver.  Everything I thought I knew—about motivating, inspiring, or stimulating certain behaviors—should be boxed up and mailed back to Norman Vincent Peale because I’m here to tell you that the rules in Alzheimersville are different.

That doesn’t mean I’m ready to give up, throw in the towel.  I still love Joe and am just as dedicated to him as I was before we started down this road.  I’m simply saying this is hard; hard to see the changes and accept the losses, hard to see the distortions in his reality and to see him slowly disconnecting.  And it’s impossibly hard to accept that no matter what I do or how much I try, I won’t be able to stop it.  I don’t have the recipe for a good ending…there is no recipe.

I have the advantage of being basically a positive person, which makes me hopeful and able to see the brighter side of most things.  But, there are times when negative thoughts invade my psyche and I see Al hovering overhead like a dark cloud ready to drench me.

 

That’s typically when something inside tells me, “Keep your balance. Stay focused.  A little negativity isn’t a bad thing.”

That’s right.  If I’m traveling on an icy road trying to decide if I should stop and put on chains, it’s a good thing to consider the possibility of sliding off the road.  I suspect you would find plenty of carnage behind anyone with Pollyanna Syndrome, because the fact is, “All things will not have positive outcomes, no matter what.”

With that said, I have something to confess.  After the holidays, I began to notice things in my behavior that I didn’t like, things uncharacteristic of what I’d call my “normal”.  I’d stopped putting on makeup in the morning, and doing my hair had become less important.  Getting out of the house seemed like a chore and I avoided returning calls.  There were days when I just didn’t care that Joe refused to get out of his pajamas, or that the laundry was piling up and there were crumbs under the kitchen table.  I found myself snapping at Joe for little things like not putting his dish in the dishwasher or leaving the light on in his closet. 

A light on in his closet, really?  With all the other issues we have around here, I’m chastising Joe about leaving a light on?  What’s wrong with me?

And then it hit me. I was depressed.

The one who rarely takes anything seriously and prides herself on being well balanced was depressed.  I’m embarrassed to admit it because I didn’t think people like me got depressed.  I’m the one who whistles a happy tune and gets going when the going get tough.   But all of a sudden (well maybe not so suddenly) it was like gravity was pushing down on me and I couldn’t lift it off. 

  

I know what you’re thinking, “Alas, pity dost not become thee.”  You’re right, I didn’t need pity, and I didn’t need a shrink to confirm my symptoms.   What I needed was a way to overcome that depressed feeling.  So this week, I refinished our master bath cabinets.  It might not be what anyone else would do to overcome depression, but for me it works.  By focusing on a new project it allowed my mind to refresh.  And, any time I make something more beautiful it raises my spirits and gets the old creative juices flowing.  Once that happens, all the other stuff just seems more manageable.  I’ll call it my “Better Homes & Guardians” therapy.

“Mother, what does normal mean?”

“It’s just a setting on the dryer, dear.”

ALZHEIMER'S: THE ALTERNATE REALITY

The Alternate Reality

I looked at the calendar today to realize it’s already the middle of January.  Wasn’t it just New Year’s Day a couple of days ago? I feel I’ve lost time somewhere.  I guess that’s what stress does, makes you lose track of time.

I’m having trouble getting past something that happened Wednesday of last week (at least I think it was Wednesday of last week). 

Joe and I were having a routine early afternoon, Joe napping as I putter in the kitchen.  I hear the sound of a chainsaw, which I think must be the gardeners trimming the beautiful palm that graces the common area in front of our home.

 

I decide to say hello to the gardener so I head out the front door, making it only a few steps before I see his workers have cut the tree in half.  With no prior notice—no warning at all—they have just destroyed the tree. 

I run into the house to get my phone and call the person responsible.  The noise I’m making wakes Joe from his nap, and he follows me back out to the yard just in time to see the workers wrestling the tree’s carcass to the ground.

By now there are several people surveying the “crime” scene, and quite a lot of noise.  I’m upset over the loss of the tree and for having been too late to stop it from happening but by the time the person responsible arrives, it has become a catastrophe in Joe’s cognitively altered mind.  In fact, I have never seen him quite so agitated and angry about anything.  It is the first time I have feared he might completely lose control of himself.

I guess looking back at what happened, I shouldn’t have been surprised by the level of Joe’s distress.  I know since Al parachuted in the parts of Joe’s brain that control emotion, reasoning, and problem solving have been disrupted but, until this incident, I hadn’t seen such an extreme manifestation of it. 

Considering all of the elements involved, what happened last week was a perfect storm, a recipe for trouble within the Alzheimer’s mind; the disorienting noise of the chain saw, loud conversations happening faster than comprehension allows, an abrupt awakening.  It would be hard to concoct a worse situation for Joe.  It was the mother-load for overstimulation, enough that it would take him several days to recover.  (Mostly he just slept.)

As a caregiver, I try hard to protect Joe from trouble spots in our environment, but I know that’s unrealistic. Stuff happens.  A while back I dropped a pan on the tile floor in the kitchen and was surprised at Joe’s extreme reaction.  I had to remind myself that when he processes a loud sound, there is a lag between hearing the sound, interpreting it as something harmless (not an explosion), and being able to relax again.

When people hear the word Alzheimer’s, most will immediately think of memory loss (forgetting words, names, or events).  That certainly is a big part of it but there are other losses that may be equally difficult for a person, and their caregiver, to cope with.

 

Imagine losing the ability to perceive time or the passage of time, looking at a clock and not being able to understand how time is moving. It sabotages your ability to plan, to be on time, or even to know if you’re late.  You might get up the middle of the night and, thinking it’s morning, start breakfast, or turn on the shower. Or worry about being late for an appointment that is actually scheduled for many hours later.  It doesn’t take much to understand the stress that would create for your spouse/caregiver.

I should be careful talking about losing perception of time.  Based on what’s been happening lately, maybe I’m the one that is losing her perception of the passage of time. 

Come to think of it, I’ve been at odds with time my whole life.  When I was a child time wouldn't move fast enough.  Years later, after I'd worked for 25 years, I used to say that I didn’t need more money, I just needed more time; time to do the things I wanted to do…time to be with my family…time to rest and enjoy what I worked so hard to get…time to think and plan…time to create.

Here I am now wishing I could roll time back; go back to the time before Al stuck his nose in our business, before all the craziness and worry, before we started down the rabbit hole with Alice (really Al) into the alternate reality that is Alzheimer’s.

“If I had a world of my own, everything would be nonsense.  Nothing would be what it is, because everything would be what it isn’t.  And contrary wise, what is, it wouldn’t be.  And what it wouldn’t be, it would. You see?”  

                            
The Mad Hatter

Lewis Carroll, Alice’s Adventures in Wonderland &

Through the Looking Glass

ALZHEIMER'S: The Slow Tsunami

Joe chillin in the breeze February 2015

Life is short but, we all know that.  So unless you’re a plastic bag, which I’m told will endure on earth for 400 to 1000 years (although having only been around since the Thirties, no one really knows for sure), at some point we all must face getting older and eventually, the end.  I’m reminded of that when I rewind the events of my life so far.

Around the time I was a toddler, Eisenhower was our President, going head to head with Khrushchev.  Jonas Salk had just developed the polio vaccine, and Korea had split in two.  Howdy Doody was my daily entertainment, and Elizabeth became the Queen of England.

By the time I was an adolescent, Elvis Presley was rehearsing his gyrations that would soon cause my parents to turn off the television.  Castro was thumbing his nose at Kennedy while at school we practiced civil defense drills.  I dreamed of being on American Bandstand, wished I had a dog like Lassie and lived in Mayberry eating Aunt Bee’s cookies with Opie. 

  

Personal computers, cell phones, space rockets and even coffee makers are the wonders of my lifetime.  I remember when hair dryers were as big as Barcaloungers, and I strongly believe Perry Mason could have gotten a conviction in the OJ Simpson trial.  But that’s just me.

Many of us Boomers are preparing to or have already retired.  We’ve officially handed the world to the next generation’s care.  Or have we?

I read recently that in the US there are over 5 million people struggling with Alzheimer’s or other dementias.   Approximately two-thirds of their caregivers are women, and 32% are over the age of 65. That sounds like a big chunk of Alzheimer’s care that is still being provided by us old Boomers.  And by the way, there isn’t a pay check.

You’ve probably heard the term the “Silver Tsunami”, referring to our aging population and its predicted impact.  I suggest that term also describes the wave Alzheimer’s caregivers see in front of them today.

I sometimes wonder when the Alzheimer’s Silver Tsunami will get to us.  When will Al overtake Joe to the point that Al’s won, and Joe is left broken, adrift, and unable to find himself? One of the hardest parts of being a caregiver is not knowing the “when”.  And since this disease can affect all aspects of the body, there can be other things happening in Joe’s body that I might not be able to see.  So it isn’t just the “when”, it’s also the “what”.

Last week Joe’s doctor called with the results of his latest lab tests and to schedule more tests.  This time it’s kidney function.  We’re just finishing with the skin cancer, and now it’s his kidneys.  Before that it was spinal issues and of course it’s always diabetes.  (I’m glad that I don’t understand more about human anatomy; it would surely only give me more territory to worry about.)

We have pills and medications for everything and specific times they must be administered.  I’ve become robotic in their dispense.  Maybe that’s what I need, a robot specialized in Alzheimer’s care.  I’d name it Hal.

“Hal, check Joe’s blood glucose level.” 
“Hal, prepare Joe’s insulin”.
“Hal, remind Joe to get on the recumbent bike”.
“Hal, it’s time for Joe’s pills.”
“Hal, remind Joe to drink water”.

That all sounds a bit far-fetched but back-in-the-day who would have thought that we’d have drones that could help locate someone lost in a forest, or take unflattering photos of the Kardashians 200 feet above their back yard?

I don’t know…It seems to me that a soft touch or a hug and a kiss are such big parts of caregiving, we could never be replaced by robots.

Today I pulled up an email I’d saved titled, Alzheimer’s Caregiver’s Resources.  It was sent to me back in early November by a case manager from the clinic where Joe’s doctor practices.  I had delayed reading it until after the holidays, noting the dozen or so files it included.  There are files on Caregiver Support, Caregiver Vouchers, Adult Care Support, Personal Care Agencies, Government and VA Agencies, and multiple application forms, all of which overwhelm me.  Each one will require hours of attention, and I’m not sure where to start.   I really have to force myself to do this.

I’d so much rather curl up beside Joe and take a nap.

ALZHEIMER'S: A YEAR IN THE LIFE

Joe and I in Las Vegas 2015

January 13, 2016 will mark the first anniversary of this blog.  Yes, it’s been one year since I decided to “go public” or “come-out-of-the-closet”, so to speak, with our journey into the world of Alzheimer’s.

I wasn’t sure it was the right thing to do, if writing a public blog would somehow become an embarrassment or humiliation for Joe and for our family.  I didn’t know how people would react to so much openness about our struggles; would they think I was trying to garner sympathy or just indulging in our troubles?  Would writing about my life provide psychological relief, or would it make things worse?

I have always been able to see the humor in life’s experiences (good or bad) and laugh about them.  But Alzheimer’s is serious business.   Would I offend readers by making light of all the craziness that comes with it?  

There were no clear answers to any of these questions. 

I decided I would have to focus on my own experiences with this disease, to speak solely from the point of view of a caregiver.  I would never be able to feel what Joe was feeling, hear what he was hearing, or see what he was seeing, much less capture it in print.

I also knew that there would be things that I just couldn’t share and, there have been many. 

 

Every day has brought contradictions to what I thought I knew and inconsistencies that create a paradox in my thinking.  I’ve often questioned what I write, fearing I might be in denial or becoming paranoid.  Are things really the way I think they are?   (This disease can often play tricks on the caregiver.)

With that said, here we are, with 31 posts hanging out there in the vastness of cyberspace.  So I asked myself, “Would I do it again?” 

The answer is simply, “Yes.”

There have been many positives that have come from writing these posts.  But one of the most surprising has been Joe’s reaction to them.  They have become “his” posts as much as they are mine.  He’s read every one (although I now read them to him), and seems to gather satisfaction in the fact that people better understand his struggles with Alzheimer’s.  By personifying the disease as “Al” it’s helped Joe see his disease as something he can fight while trying to hang on to himself.  It isn’t just a clinical description, it’s Al, and even Joe knows Al sometimes needs a kick in the butt.

The posts have kept us connected with a world of friends and a community that stretches around the globe to over twenty countries.  The feedback from that community has been a bright light into what can sometimes be a dark and hopeless pit. 

And, finally, I’ve enjoyed writing the posts.  It truly is cathartic.  I feel stronger by openly sharing and expressing what it’s like to be a caregiver for a spouse living with this disease.  That strength helps me swim against the current in the Ocean of Alzheimer’s.  I feel you are all here with us, ready with the life boat and a hug.

So, Happy New Year to our family, friends, readers and fellow caregivers around the world.  May you find hope and the strength to bear your own struggles, whatever they may be.  I’ll keep posting and have little doubt that there will be plenty to write about and, maybe even a few chuckles.

“Challenge yourself with something you know you could never do, and what you’ll find is that you can overcome almost anything.”

Anonymous

Okay, here is one of my favorite Alzheimer’s jokes…

There was an elderly gentleman who was suffering from Alzheimer’s.  His wife of 40 years loved him very much, but couldn’t handle him any longer.  She took him to a memory care facility.  At the facility while she was filling out paperwork, a nurse had the gentlemen sit in a chair.

Suddenly the man starting slowly leaning to his left.  The nurse ran over and put a pillow on his left side to prop him up.  A few minutes later, he started leaning to his right.  Again, the nurse ran over and put a pillow on his right.  Then he starting leaning forward.  This time, the nurse strapped him into the chair.  About this time his wife, having completed the paperwork, walked up to him and asked, “How do you like the place?” 

“It’s okay,” he said.  “But, they won’t let me fart!”

(Joe really laughed at this one.)

P.S.  A special thanks to my editor Kathleen, who’s helped build my confidence to write.

ALZHEIMER'S: SANTA MEETS AL THE GRINCH

Joe as Santa Claus in 2004

I have always loved Santa, ever since the first time I met him.

 

It was Christmas Eve, 1952.  We were with our extended family, celebrating and feasting much like the generations before us.  (Well, mostly my sister and I were jumping up and down, way too excited to eat.)  Then there was a knock at the door. 

Daddy stood up, “Now who could that be?”  He headed for the door but stopped. 

“Why don’t you two get the door?” He was looking at my sister and me.

Now, I was the youngest person in the house and never allowed to get the door but he nudged me forward. “Go on, you get it.” 

The room grew quiet. We looked at Mother who smiled, nodding her approval. My sister and I opened the door and there he was, Santa.  I can still picture the scene; the beard, the red suit, the bag, a big hug, and just like the stories said, this jolly old man (who I now strongly suspect was my Uncle Cleo) instantly mesmerized me.

Some 50 years later, I recreated the same scene for some of our grandchildren.  Only this time Santa was Grandpa Joe, fully decked out in a suit I’d spent weeks creating. That year Joe donned Santa’s gay apparel for several holiday events.  He really rocked it with his deep baritone version of Ho, Ho, Ho. 

Joe still tells the story of a little blonde girl who spotted Santa from across the room, came running for him at full tilt, jumped onto his lap and hugged him.   He calls her little Janie when he recounts the tale, imagining me looking like her at that age.

The years have passed and now of course we spend Christmases with Al, “The Grinch”.  He isn’t into holiday festivities and doesn’t see the point of all the exuberance most of us exhibit.  His apathy and shrinking enthusiasm is like a virus, infecting our spirit and robbing us of the kind of joy we experienced in Christmases past.  Gone is the pleasure Joe once took in sneaking away to shop for the special gifts, those quirky, interesting and unconventional things that delighted us.

 

This lack of spirit isn’t just the normal fading of wonderment that sometimes comes with aging, the kind that can easily be cured with a little mistletoe, eggnog and the right company.   It’s deeper, down to the core.  Al has replaced jubilation with confusion, apprehension, and anxiety.  He’s made everything harder, more complicated.

“You’re a mean one, Mr. Grinch!”

But this year, I’m fighting back.  We aren’t leaving anything up to Al.  We have a plan.   It starts with the tree and a few outdoor lights (we don’t see many of those in our senior community.)   Next, Joe and I will go shopping together and try to find unique and distinctive gifts that express the joy and thankfulness we feel for those we love.

I’ll bake cookies and Joe will help. Then we’ll deliver them to the neighbors.  I’ll break out the Christmas music and play all of our old favorites.   Even the Grinch should know the words to Bing Crosby’s White Christmas.  We’ll move at a slower pace and maybe spread things out a bit but, this year there will be joy, even if we have to tie Al (that Grinch!) to the Christmas tree. 

Most especially, we’ll be thinking of all the other Alzheimer’s families struggling to hang on to Christmas and the ones they love.

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Joe’s daughter and family joined us a few weeks ago for the Thanksgiving holiday.  While they were with us our son-in-law, the electrician, helped with a couple of small home improvement projects. This of course meant a trip to the local big-box hardware store.

 

As we entered the store, just inside the door stood Santa, the greeter.   Having never lost my love of Santa, I gave him a big hug, welcoming him back and telling him that we had missed him.  I think my son-in-law thought I had lost my mind.  But as I said before, I’ve always been crazy about Santa.

Christmas shopping together 2015

May the season bring joy and happiness to all.